decisions, decisions.

Actually, it's true (with some things). A friend and I were talking last night about a writer we've both read who seems to glamorize "process". In fact, both of us voiced our suspicion about this writer, wondering if she intentionally avoids resolution in some areas of her life so that she has something to publish. When your career is based on your ability to articulate your angst, moving on has bigger consequences.

Now, I know that in every life there's always a level of development, or at least transition or change. But you know what the term is for when someone is consistently hovering in liminality? Arrested development. The same is true of agnosticism; no one "stays" agnostic. At some point a decision is made-on some level- to believe there is or is not a God. Belief involves commitment and epistemological cooperation. Choosing not to choose in that situation is a matter of self-deception.

I think the dicey part is trying to figure out how long different processes take. Sometimes we rush ourselves to make important decisions, or sometimes we're just plain flakey and waffling, desperately wanting not to choose. I think it helps to get others' perspectives on what's healthy. One thing we might discover is that often we're given false choices in life: either/or extremes that don't make any sense, are unnecessarily limited, or are just plain uncreative. Some decisions are like that and others aren't. Creatively approaching our choices in the context of a loving community helps us to discern which is which, and eventually to decide what's best.